Hey ,how de and how do you do 😌💕.

Think with me for a sec quickly ,what is closure? Well according to the dictionary definition I came across it says closure is :the feeling that a difficult or an unpleasant experience had come to an end. But then again in my case I say not all situations deserve closure. If that situation had ever cost you your peace then I think “closure” is out of the question.

Quick story on a personal experience level with “closure” … So I dated my first and only boyfriend about 02 years 02/03 years back and it was not cool. I have a habit of of friend zoning males because I relate very well with them but then with Jessé it was totally different. I cannot remember when I supposedly *loved* him intimately or when I said “yes Jess I’d *date* you.

Jess and I started dating on 02 March, had out first *date* on 08 March and we didn’t meet again as partners afterwards. So Jess is 03years older than I am and he is all the way from the beautiful Eastern tribe of Nigeria , the Igbo tribe😍 and I looooooove that tribe , chai shout-out to my Igbo people y’all are breathtaking beautiful people.

Yes , yes back to Jess and I. So Jess and I met at my high school of that time on his visit to the school since he matriculated during my third year in high school and we communicated for about 05 months and more maybe before we *dated*

Fast forwarding things … On our first month anniversary his baby sister Amaka whom we call Ami sent me a text out of the blue reading we need to talk , I stared at that text again and again like thrice before I replied saying I’ll wait for her at the park station after school that day. So Ami and I met up and she said it. Jess had someone else in his life that his mom actually called *my daughter* meaning I had no space in the portrait . As obvious as it is Jess did not appreciate Ami telling me the truth and was sorry I got told , sorry he hurt me or sorry that things did not work out 🤷 … Now that I do not know. … It took me another 16/18 months before Jess and I saw each other face to face again and in all that time I wondered if if I went wrong somewhere, I didn’t ‘know’ him too well and or maybe he was the jinx 🤷

I haven’t given anyone else a chance since then because I’m settled with making myself happy for now 🥑✨ because when I finally saw Jess again and he explained his actions that ‘closure’ worsened instead of healing things

Well Jess and I kept in touch yet I purposefully ignore his texts and calls after I reply “I’m glad you doing well” because I’ve heard his girlfriend awaits for me to step on her toes and and she’ll come for me and all but I just hope they keep looking cute together in the long run 🙃.

Today I can proudly say that as much as I desire closure at times I’d rather wring the ears of my creator with me asking Him for closure in worship and prayer than asking from man🌤️ .

Me ? Intimate? Oh well with my creator yes … Intimacy with Christ ,hummn great title for another post on another day so stay tuned and lemme hear your ones and twos in the comments 🌟so that together we can keep at the growth to grow , grow and grow .